Hey guys check out the post I did for Muscle Pyramid!
Smilepua introduces guest-author Joey Brunner. He is one of the guys that runs Muscle Pyramid one of the best fitness sites out there for men . Joey along with the rest of the Muscle Pyramid family really know their stuff and I’m honored to work with them.
Paul mentioned peacocking before. What is peacocking? And might a muscular body be the best way to peacock?
In pick up, peacocking essentially means that a guy uses an outstanding accessory, so that people (hopefully girls) will comment on it, therefore they can have a conversation and then get laid. It could be a funny watch or a colorful t-shirt.
I heard an interesting theory about peacocking and how the term actually arose: If you look at a male peacock that gets laid a lot, you will notice that it has blue and outstanding feathers. These feathers DO NOTHING except attracting females. It can’t fly with it, it can’t fight with it and it is actually backfiring because predators will find the colorful peacock easily.
The point of it is to display survival value (I’m kind of into primal like pick up lol). By having such visible feathers and not getting killed, the peacock shows that it knows how to flee from predators, perhaps how to fight them and good places to hide. Obviously females want that for their children, so they decide to mate with the peacock.
Let’s get back to the human world. I personally have experienced an issue with colorful clothes and accessories. EVERYBODY WEARS THEM! Seriously, if you go to any store, even vogue brands like Calvin Klein or Armani, they all sell this colorful stuff. So with current popular brand clothing, it is hard to really stand out (peacock).
My personal favorite way of peacocking is working out with weights. You will actually gain more than just a new t-shirt or accessory (I’m talking about improving life as a whole) and you will make it clear that there is more to you than spending money at the mall. Whenever I’m at public places (it doesn’t even have to be a club or something like that) people notice my body. Peacocking much? Damn straight!
Lots of women say that they feel secure around a muscular man. Does it make sense? I mean most of the people reading this live in a place where they can simply call the cops if they are in trouble. It really doesn’t have to make sense, it’s all about the feeling of security that a woman gets around a broad shouldered man.
Another part of “muscle-peacocking” is that you display that you are confident enough in yourself to show what you worked so hard for. I’m not talking about taking steroids and wearing a shirt 3 sizes smaller than what is necessary, that’s just insecure. What I mean is showing that you take care of yourself and that you have respect for yourself. Ergo you present survival value. Trust me on this one, people will comment on this and girls like it.
For example, I went to a house party a few months ago and ended up hooking up with a girl. We went to the bathroom and took each others clothes off. Oh boy! When I took my shirt of she stood there with her mouth wide open, it seemed as if she were completely paralyzed. If I hadn’t interfered by kissing her, I don’t know how much longer she would have stood there just looking at me. I think you can guess how things went along from there. Btw, I have lots of stories like that.
Another time I went to a club with a few buddies of mine. I ended up hanging out with another group because my friends left and I wanted to stay. I got so many compliments for my body it was pretty ridiculous, I must admit though, most of the compliments were from the guys (not gay!) at our table. But that really fired me up! My confidence was boosted through the roof and I started approaching the hottest girls at the club. Sadly I didn’t get any action, but what I did get was a learning experience. Ever since that night I have NO PROBLEM approaching and talking to hot girls!
Let’s be honest, the reason most guys don’t get the action they want is not because of money, looks or status. The real reason is that they simply don’t approach girls and most of the time if they do, they don’t know what to say or do. Except of course if you know that you’re hot and get confidence boosts due to comments and looks from others all the time.
All in all, building a butch body is the best way of peacocking in my book. You get lots of compliments, attention, respect and the list goes on and on. Not only will you improve your game but you will also improve your whole life! Some examples include: health, improved mental acuity, better sex, less depression and so on and so forth. I hope you stop investing time in buying “trendy” clothes and start investing time in the gym.
Most programs will have you looking like a stage ready fitness competitor within 6 months, which is good if you want to compete. Most guys just want to have abs and a body that women actually desire (not a spray tan bodybuilder).
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If you’ve been following my blog for awhile then you have probably read my post Smile’s Guide To Awesome Living. Well one of my rules for single guys is never let a woman you’re attracted to just pass you by. You’ll end up just kicking yourself in the ass for it.
The other day I didn’t follow my own advice and I let a really attractive girl just pass me by without saying anything to her. I was hanging out next to the pool with a few buddies of mine just drinking a few beers talking and there was this gorgeous girl a few chairs down from us. She was out there for about 30 minutes while we were and I didn’t say anything to her. I told myself that I was out here hanging out with the guys so I shouldn’t focus on women but you know what that was just an excuse. My guy friends wouldn’t have cared if I walked away for a few minutes to talk to her and as a matter of fact they would have thought it was awesome. I have been regretting not talking to her ever since that day. Now you might be asking yourself why am I telling you this?
First to demonstrate it is ok to make mistakes! No one is perfect and making a mistake every once in awhile reminds you of why you do certain things. I don’t let women I’m really attracted to pass me by because you never know what can come from a quick random conversation with an attractive woman.
Next is lifestyle changes take a long time and you will fall off the bandwagon every once in awhile. Whether it is improving your physique, your finances, your career, or your success with women. No matter how much you improve these parts of your life every once in awhile you’ll make a mistake. Mistakes are fine as long as you learn from them and get back to your new and improved habits!
So remember no one is perfect and every mistake is a learning experience. As long as you’re putting yourself out there and working hard to reach your goals you will improve your life! This is Smile signing off until next time!
By now you have probably heard of the book Man 2.0 Engineering The Alpha. One of the authors of the book is John Romaniello, one of the best and most popular fitness bloggers out there. I have been following him for a while and I immediately ordered this book after hearing about it.
What Is It About?
Man 2.0 Engineering The Alpha is advertised as a fitness and lifestyle book but the lifestyle part is a bit of a stretch. It emphasizes changing your life by using diet and fitness which I actually like. Speaking for myself I had my shit together back when I was fat but my life improved even more when I started taking my health seriously. When you improve and control every aspect of your life it really does change your overall mood in ways you can’t really imagine. With all that said this book isn’t really going to offer much along the lines of positive thinking or any other advice for improving your life.
The book starts out defining the traditional alpha male and addresses the negative aspects of the traditional alpha male. After they define the traits of the new alpha male and go on to list their rules for an alpha male. This is probably my favorite part of the book and something every person can benefit from reading. The book is all about creating the best version of yourself and I personally plan on adding some of these rules to my own life and there are a few traits that I plan on trying to develop.
Optimizing Your Hormones
The focus of the book is optimizing your hormones through a combination of diet and exercise. Most people that try to create their own diet and workout programs have absolutely no damn clue what they’re doing even though they think they do. For most guys they start eating nothing but salads and sandwiches ignoring their fat and carbohydrate intake. They end up feeling like shit thinking they’re in “starvation mode” when really they have just caused even more damage to their hormones than their previous crappy diet was causing. Your average man in his 20s and 30s has the hormonal make up of a guy 15 – 20 years older due to lack of physical activity and poor diet.
What really sets this book apart from the rest of the fitness books out there is it addresses hormonal balance along with a detailed diet and exercise program. Most books out there will either give you a detailed exercise program with basic diet advice or vice versa, but not Man 2.0! Also when I say detailed man do I mean detailed! They give you all the scientific research to support their claims. Later in the book they give you all the formulas to figure out your protein, fat, and carbohydrate intake along with food lists and sample meal plans. After you get the diet handled they give you the workout program with pictures of the exercises. This book really is the complete package!
Who Is It For?
This book is great for any guy who is looking to improve his body and change how he feels on a daily basis. I remember many days sitting at work not only being unhappy with my body but also just feeling tired all the time. This book will help you transform your body and mood along with giving you detailed knowledge of how your body functions. If you’re already working out, eating healthy, and still wish you felt or looked a little better this book is also for you. I really feel this is the most complete fitness book I have ever seen and I have recommended it to a few of my guy friends.
I’ve made a lot of progress towards my fitness goals. Below you can check out one of the pictures I submitted for the 10th Adonis Index Transformation Contest. I hope you are all moving closer to accomplishing your goals also!
In my last post I covered the guys in the seduction community that I think others should follow. Today I want to follow up with why I think most of the “gurus” out there suck. Yeah it is a negative statement but I don’t really know of any other way to say it.
A popular theme in the seduction community is demonstrating value. Now first off this is necessary because you have to demonstrate that you’re a worthwhile guy. It is how you create attraction and is a skill all of us guys need to develop.
My issue with most of these gurus is that when they’re picking up women themselves they rely on demonstrating potential value and not developing their lives so that they have actual value. They talk about all the shit they’re going to do with their lives but never follow through on any of it. Another tactic is they use the same made up stories on women that they teach to their students. It is one thing to teach a story to a guy who has never talked to women before but eventually you need to learn how to tell stories from your life in an interesting manner.
Many of the gurus out there use shit like magic and psychological tricks to pick up women. Yeah that might work at last call on the drunk girl at the bar but that isn’t game. Go on a date with a lawyer who went to Stanford and you’ll just get a weird look if you perform a magic trick. If you want to practice magic then dress up like a clown and start working birthday parties.
Emphasis On Quantity
When teaching someone how to meet women most dating coaches preach quantity, talk to as many women as you can. Why you ask? Well they need the practice. Now after you have been doing this a while you should be at a level where it shouldn’t take hitting on 20 women in a night to get a phone number. In my opinion you should be able to hook 75% of the sets you approach.
Most of these gurus that guys are learning from do not have lives that you would envy. Yeah they can get laid but they can’t keep a woman around if they wanted to. They can’t afford to pay their bills, have drug addictions, are mentally unstable, or in some cases all three. They don’t focus on lifestyle development at all. So not only is their game poor but they are awful people. Hell one of my friends paid for a 1 on 1 from a well known coach and the guy ended up jumping him in their hotel room while he was high on acid!
Overall it doesn’t take a lot to impress someone who is awful with women which is why these guys can get away with all this shit. This is I emphasize things like lifestyle development and becoming the type of guy women dream of dating, not the guy they regret sleeping with!
Over the next few weeks I’m going to be traveling a lot so I’ll try to schedule my posts before I leave. With that said I probably won’t be able to take any requests for posts until mid June. If you have any questions feel free to email me and I will reply though.
Something I get asked frequently is what PUAs I follow and what material I recommend. First when it comes to the seduction industry as a whole I don’t follow very many “gurus”. Actually I don’t follow anyone but if I were starting out these would be the guys I would follow. Reason being most “gurus” aren’t very good with women and/or their lives are also complete shit. I’m talking about guys who only get laid because they hit on 50 women a night and can barely pay their bills. Hell some of them can’t pay their bills at all. So I just want to throw up some links to guys that I like.
Don’t become obsessed with reading a bunch of material. I have only read two books the rest was learned by trial and error along with feedback from my mentors. Next if you think magic is a great way to pick up women go somewhere else.
Now Sasha is all about meeting women during the day so if you’re about going out to the bars or clubs to meet women he isn’t the guy to follow. This guy knows his shit and is very good at day game. I didn’t get to spend too much time with him when he was in Denver but he seemed like a cool guy and my friend who I trust had a lot of good things to say about him.
Whenever I’m asked what book I recommend guys read I always say Magic Bullets by these guys. A great book that helps guys develop their own style and one of the two books that I read. I also have two buddies who are great with women who have learned from these guys personally. Hell a lot of the companies out there are run by guys who used to work for and learned from these guys.
I have listened to podcasts that feature this guy and he definitely knows his stuff. His bad boy formula is really well put together and doesn’t turn guys into assholes. I also like the fact that he is more a lifestyle coach than just teaching guys how to get laid.
I have breezed through his book Double Your Dating and I was impressed by what I read. He also writes for AskMen a lot. I have friends who have read his book and I trust their opinions. The thing I like most about him is he comes across as a successful guy instead of a creeper. That is actually very hard to find in this industry.
He is on the board of directors for American Apparel and his books are about lifestyle development along with how to seduce people to get your way in the business world. His books have been adopted by the seduction community even though he isn’t involved in it at all. I have read The Art of Seduction and The 48 Laws of Power. I don’t consider them to be books on dating but they’re great for anyone looking to improve their life or improve their standing in the business world.
So there you have it these are the guys I follow and consider to be good sources of information. You might wonder why I don’t have any Mystery Method or RSD guys on here. Well it is simple they’re freaks who aren’t really very good with women and the methods they teach have huge holes. Remember you want to be someone that women want to keep dating not some freak that they regret sleeping with and the guys I listed above are great sources of information.