Two of the most common questions I get are how to start a conversation with a woman while out and how to ask for her phone number. Guys think they need to come up with some clever way to do these things. I always ask why?

Women don’t wake up hoping to not get swept off their feet. They want to meet a great guy and that could be you. They also know that if you come up to them on a Friday night at a bar that you’re attracted to them. So why hide this fact? Getting straight to the point will show you have balls of steel. What if she is with her friends? Walk up then ask her friends “Do you guys mind if I talk to your friend?”. You’ll score extra points if you say this when she is with a guy(s). Just make sure you have something to talk about after or you’ll end up sleeping alone.

How do you ask for her phone number? I hear about these long drawn out ways guys ask for phone numbers. “Hey we should exchange numbers so we can hangout sometime. What are you doing next Saturday?.” A woman knows when you’re hitting on her and coming up with a clever way to ask for her phone number isn’t going to make her forget that. An easier way to do this might look like this “Hey give me your phone number so I can bring you to ____”. Pretty simple right?

You have to remember there isn’t anything wrong with being obvious about what your intentions are. After all you’re a man and she is a woman you’re supposed to want to have sex with her! Do you think our ancestors hundreds of years ago hid their intentions? This principle applies to other things such as when it comes time to kiss her or whatever else you can think of. Don’t ask just be a man and do it. After all what is the worst that can happen? It’s not like she is going to pepper spray you!

So stop being such a pussy! Get out there, talk to some women, and remember it’s what you’re supposed to be doing!