We all have to deal with rejection at one time or another, some earlier than others!
We have all been there, you see a woman you’re attracted to, you give her a good look up and down, then you never actually go talk to her. Maybe you see her at the bar, so you stare at her for a while, you might actually think about talking to her, and then you talk yourself out of it. You tell yourself she wouldn’t be into a guy like you, she probably has a boyfriend, or I don’t want to interrupt her conversation.
Now I can write about a book on the above scenario but this is a free blog so you’re getting way more than you pay for already! The fact of the matter is the more attempts you make to meet women the more success you will have. You can’t have sex with women that you don’t talk to!
One easy way to prevent this is to condition yourself to talk to women almost immediately. If you see a woman you find attractive immediately walk up to her to introduce yourself. Don’t think about what to say, just walk up to talk to her. Eventually you will develop a habit of just talking to the women you’re attracted to immediately.
Most women aren’t going to give you a “talk to the hand” response if you start a conversation with them.
Another great way to get over the fear of rejection is to start talking to everyone. An easy way is if you see something you like about someone or find interesting compliment them on it. Tell them you like their watch or their shoes, you’ll be surprised by how receptive people are, and also how willing they are to talk to a stranger. Just don’t start the conversation off with “nice boobs”!
The important thing to remember is if you put yourself in a position to have success then you will eventually have success. In my blog I focus a lot on personality and lifestyle development to help make you more attractive to women. With that said all that is wasted if you don’t actually try to meet women. Look at it this way if I walk around asking people if they want some ketchup eventually someone is going to want some ketchup! So get out there and spread your ketchup!
She wants your ketchup!
Yes! This is so good. I can’t tell you how many of my girlfriends tell me stories about the guy who was checking them out but never talked the them. I realize we live in 2012 and that it might be silly to say the guy has to make the first move, but fair or not, when it comes to attraction it’s mostly still on you guys to break the ice.
Smile, I love what you said about putting yourself in a postion of success. I think of this as a mental mindset, or a mental projection of success. You can psych yourself in or out of any situation. Practice psyching yourself ‘out’ of it enough and you’ll be so spooked to approach you never will. Practice psyching youself ‘up’ enough, you will have success after success.
If the quality of your practice matches the quality of your desired outcome, you can’t help but be successful. If you want to be successful enough – with women, with anything – the element that really makes a difference is focused, deliberate practice. I was watching this awesome video on Muscle and Fitness in a series called “Max Mind Set” about how to practice to become a master at anything, and it came to mind when I was reading your post.
I hope the guys who read this talk to some of my cute girlfriends now, because I’m tired of hearing them complain about guys not taking the initiative!
Most guys don’t realize how badly your average woman wants to meet a man. It takes a while but once you start to develop the mindset of approaching women it will carry over to everything in life because you will develop the mindset of a person who does instead of just thinking about doing.