In my last post I covered the guys in the seduction community that I think others should follow. Today I want to follow up with why I think most of the “gurus” out there suck. Yeah it is a negative statement but I don’t really know of any other way to say it.
A popular theme in the seduction community is demonstrating value. Now first off this is necessary because you have to demonstrate that you’re a worthwhile guy. It is how you create attraction and is a skill all of us guys need to develop.
My issue with most of these gurus is that when they’re picking up women themselves they rely on demonstrating potential value and not developing their lives so that they have actual value. They talk about all the shit they’re going to do with their lives but never follow through on any of it. Another tactic is they use the same made up stories on women that they teach to their students. It is one thing to teach a story to a guy who has never talked to women before but eventually you need to learn how to tell stories from your life in an interesting manner.
Many of the gurus out there use shit like magic and psychological tricks to pick up women. Yeah that might work at last call on the drunk girl at the bar but that isn’t game. Go on a date with a lawyer who went to Stanford and you’ll just get a weird look if you perform a magic trick. If you want to practice magic then dress up like a clown and start working birthday parties.
Emphasis On Quantity
When teaching someone how to meet women most dating coaches preach quantity, talk to as many women as you can. Why you ask? Well they need the practice. Now after you have been doing this a while you should be at a level where it shouldn’t take hitting on 20 women in a night to get a phone number. In my opinion you should be able to hook 75% of the sets you approach.
Most of these gurus that guys are learning from do not have lives that you would envy. Yeah they can get laid but they can’t keep a woman around if they wanted to. They can’t afford to pay their bills, have drug addictions, are mentally unstable, or in some cases all three. They don’t focus on lifestyle development at all. So not only is their game poor but they are awful people. Hell one of my friends paid for a 1 on 1 from a well known coach and the guy ended up jumping him in their hotel room while he was high on acid!
Overall it doesn’t take a lot to impress someone who is awful with women which is why these guys can get away with all this shit. This is I emphasize things like lifestyle development and becoming the type of guy women dream of dating, not the guy they regret sleeping with!
Over the next few weeks I’m going to be traveling a lot so I’ll try to schedule my posts before I leave. With that said I probably won’t be able to take any requests for posts until mid June. If you have any questions feel free to email me and I will reply though.